“The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us, but those who win battles we know nothing about.” I wish I knew who has written this utterly accurate quote because I would literally hug them with all the love I possess.
It’s true, so many of us try to win battles no one knows about.. We try, we don’t always win. We try to wear a genuine smile upon our face because we don’t want to bother others. We don’t want others to worry about us. Not only do we keep certain things to ourselves for the reasons of not wanting to bother others, but also because the world has turned into such a heartless and judgmental place. Of course not the whole world is like that and I believe there is still good in the world.. But let’s say that the majority of our younger generation nowadays have become rather ‘badass’ and ‘bitch, I don’t care’. It seems to be way trendier to be rude and cold than to be full of love and kindness. Sadly kindness is taken as a weakness while being uncaring is taken as strength and celebrated as one of the golden treats and best characteristics of a human being. Hating on things and judging others one does not know a single thing about is so much easier than trying to love something.. Trust me. I dare anyone to love with all their heart and with every fibre of their own being. I dare anyone to let go of hate and to hold on to love. For God’s sake I dare anyone to care about things more and I will personally reward each person with my sincere love and friendship because I personally think that things like that are way more precious than all the materialistic things people buy to make themselves feel better about their own person.
And you know what? In my opinion, nowadays, people want to be famous and rich for all the wrong reasons. I’m not saying that feeling the need to be rich to be able to buy expensive stuff for them is wrong. But what happens when you get everything you want and you have no one to share it with? Personally I think happiness is when you can share things and moments with the people you love the most. What’s the point of being the richest person in the graveyard? What’s the point of having to attend every business meeting all alone in your Lamborghini? Loneliness is tragic while being alone can be utterly beautiful though. I would rather have less and be happy with the few little things I possess. Too many materials around us can make us feel stressed and we start to crave more.. We start to want more just to be able to stay on a certain level society "dictates". If I ever had so much money I could never use, than I would give it to people who need it more than I do. I would use all my money and fame to help others. To be famous means to be an idol too, it means to have a certain responsibility towards the upcoming generation. Fame should be used to move and change things for the better, to build things for those in need. Fame should be used wisely. If someone’s famous all around the globe, I believe that your voice will be heard more easily. All eyes are on you and instead of spending my time fixing my boobs and buying new expensive shit I don’t even need, I would spend my money on people. I would invest in every organisation who dreams of the same things I do, an organisation who shares a vision with me and who would want to change the world for the better too.
It happens that nowadays the people who earn the most are also the ones who are most penny-pinching while those people who possess nothing but their own body are the most giving ones. It also appears that those who had a perfect life and the only problem they had to deal with was to decide what they would want to eat for lunch, are the rather selfish ones. Meanwhile the people who have gone through so many real battles in their life, like fighting for their existence and trying to literally survive are the most kind-hearted people I have ever met in my life. Sure we all have our own definition of struggle, sorrow, sadness, trouble and more.. But I would always remember how I’d sit down beside a homeless person who kindly asked me for food and spare change and I’d spend hours and hours talking about God and the world with them, after I have bought proper food for them of course. And we would talk about life and I would try to get to know them and their story in order to learn from them while everyone else would walk by and shoot a disgusted look at us for sitting on the ground. I believe that you can learn from everyone, no matter how old they are and no matter where they come from. And each and every single person we meet has feelings too. Each and every single person we meet carries their own stories with them. Some might carry a light bag only while others drag a massive and very heavy luggage with them, and of course it is not visual to everyone but if you take a closer look you might notice, by the way they walk and talk, what really lies behind the eyes of someone. You might notice what kind of person they really are because the body language never lies. Therefore I believe we should never treat someone bad with no reason at all as, like I have mentioned in the first few phrases in this post, we do not know which battles one has to fight on a daily basis and what kind of things some people have to carry with them.
Many times have I tried not to be a judgemental little bitch.. Many times have I been conflicted between wanting to be 'badass' and not an emotional filled cupcake wrapped in feelings no one can handle, not even myself. But you know what really badass is? It's facing all those emotions that flow through your body, it's accepting them and trying to deal with them the best way you can. Having emotions and showing them openly is not a weakness.. It's a bloody strength and trust me it's one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with. Because society will immediately claim you as an attention whore, as an emotional wreck, as a pussy and a weak ass princess as all they want to see is people calling themselves a 'queen bitch'. A person who only loves one self and ignores all other feelings and vibes they get from others.. Which I find utterly sad, as sharing is caring and caring is so beautiful and what's more beautiful than to have someone by your side that cares about you just like that? So sincere.. Someone who doesn't even ask for anything in return.. Someone you can share mutual feelings with. Don't ever cut this out of your life but embrace it, cherish it, enjoy it with every single second given in your life. Allow your soul to dance too, allow your face to shine too.. Screw the wrinkles you might get due to constantly laughing and smiling. Behind every wrinkle is a story.. So why not allow it to be a story full of joy?
Allow yourself to be the queen of hearts instead. And simply treat others like you want to be treated. Try to think outside the box too.. Don't be a selfish little bugger even though a little selfishness is needed in order to survive and not to bleed dry until you have literally nothing anymore. But there's a world outside your comfort zone and there are beautiful people too.. So give them a chance and gift them with your most sincere smile if you can.. You'll be surprised what could happen to you when giving without thinking or desperately wanting to get something back.
xoxo, NCH - cocoroxic.